"No one realizes how beautiful it is to travel until he comes home and rests his head on his old, familiar pillow." ~Lin Yutang

Friday, October 7, 2011

first things first this friday:

did you know that on 10/15 it will be pregnancy and infant loss remembrance day?
i didn't! 
i didn't know there WAS such a thing.  when i went through the most difficult and painful time of my life (almost 8 years ago) i felt so alone.  i didn't know anyone who had gone through anything similar.  after my loss, i read the statistics in miscarriages and so i realized that 1 in ever 4 women would experience one [at least]... but no one really said anything about it... or did anything about it publicly... 
since then, i have had many many friends and loved ones who have lost precious babies to miscarriages, a few to still births, and one from SIDS.  i don't know if there is anything more painful or more DIFFICULT! 

a baby lost is something that never can be found... until heaven.  the pain is indescribable.  not only the physical pain but the emotional pain that accompanies the loss is seriously unbearable.  lots of times there isn't a chance to hold that baby, or even see him (or her)... there isn't the chance --or the chance is stunted-- to watch him grow, teach him about life, listen to him laugh and observe the world around him... 
having a support system of wonderful friends and/or family who have experienced the same kind of loss makes it so much lighter of a load.  the help that can be given is sometimes so beneficial in helping to work through the pain.  i wish i would've had some.  if you have the knowledge that someday you'll get to meet that baby, and see him again in heaven, you have the biggest comfort of all... but until heaven you don't have much.  no happy memories. 
so recently i discovered the sweetest gesture to help you remember your baby (my baby) and acknowledge the life that was lost...
i, randomly, started following a new blog this last week, www.kitchenandkids.com, which IS pretty random, because i hardly do that.  but she/the new blog introduced me to pregnancy and infant loss remembrance day.  she has a friend, Melissa at Beautifully Chaotic, who has been inspired by her own losses to do something magnificent to honor her two precious little ones and all of those little ones out there that have been lost. she will be putting together a short video documentary to honor those lost babies.  she will also be doing a balloon release on the video with the babies names on balloons.
here's an invitation from her:
"I would love for you to go over to Beautifully Chaotic and see what Melissa has planned. You can also include your baby as well if you wish. Melissa will be collecting names until October 8th at midnight. You can either go to her site to leave your baby’s name and the date you associate with their passing, or you can simply do it here. If you aren’t comfortable leaving a comment, you can use Melissa’s contact form or my contact form to have your baby’s name included.
Remember – You are not alone!"

isn't that just so sweet?!  sometimes the hardest part of loosing a little one is the pain in doing it alone or unknown.  how many kids do you have?  well, i have 5 precious ones here with me, 1 in eutero, and 1 in heaven!  do you have a baby you'd like to acknowledge?  i do:
Theron Tyler (and that's not a code name) was delivered to me 11-19-03... and heaven got him a few days before...  he was perfect and sweet and never did any wrong...  the best baby ever! 
Try to remember, "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." 

7 comments:

Alexis said...

I have a friend who I was a belly buddy with Eli. Our babies were due the same day. She went through a still birth. I had never really thought about any of this until that time. My dear friends and I were there for her and that little boy was like a child to us. You are so right support is crucial. Here is Justin's Story..........
http://web.mac.com/crmemories/www.crmemories.com/Justins_Story_.html

So sorry you had to go through such loss. I hope you never have to go through it again.

MamaT said...

thank you alexis. me too.

feel free to share this post (and the links) with justin's parents!

MamaT said...

wow alexis. that was a very emotional blog! i can't imagine... it makes me cry. thanks for sharing.
<3

Nicnic said...

Great blog sister, and one that you KNOW speaks to me so much! I think about my lost babies so very often, and it is comforting to know that others do as well. Knowing that our babies are in Heaven is the most comforting thing we've got, and I cling to that so tightly.

Melissa Aulds said...

Thank you so much for helping spread the word about this event! I so appreciate it! Also- I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby, I know how it hurts.

Kimberly said...

That's a cool idea! Time does heal us but we never forget our little boy. Someday!

Amy @ Kitchen and Kids said...

Thank you for taking the time to spread the word. I appreciate it. I too am sorry for your loss, but if I remember correctly, we are both now happily anticipating new blessings in our life. Have a blessed day.