Parenting TipNovember 8, 2010
Every day parents have opportunities to touch the hearts of their children. Sometimes it's through a story or a hug, or an apology, but often it's through the daily correction that children need.
Addressing the heart is important. Unfortunately some parents respond to their children in ways that miss the heart. One of the mistakes parents make is that they make excuses for their children. We've all heard them.
He'll grow out of it.
She's so cute.
At least she's doing what I asked.
He's just going through a stage.
At least she's better than other kids her age.
That's the way kids are.
She's a teenager.
He's a two-year-old.
He's a boy.
She could be a lot worse.
Each of these is an excuse for not disciplining and often represents a missed opportunity to teach or direct a child on a deeper level. Remember, we aren't just trying to help children change on the outside to develop appropriate behavior. We're trying to help them change their hearts.
Since these statements might have truths behind them, we may choose to discipline a little differently, postpone a consequence, or redirect children. There's nothing wrong with that, but we must be careful not to ignore heart issues in the process.
Look for ways to challenge your children on a heart level this week. You'll be surprised at how many opportunities are out there.
This parenting tip was taken from the book, Home Improvement, The Parenting Book You Can Read to Your Kids, by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.
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i can say that i sure have used some of those excuses! training is hard work and it is a constant job. i sometimes (ok, a lot) wish that i could just teach the kids how to behave and then just have well-behaved little chitlins for the rest of their lives... but alas. it doesn't work that way. however, in the job of parenting and child-training, the rewards are so joyful. having kids FULL of godly character is a reward that is limitless. move onward! keep it up! <3